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3 Ways to Prepare for Death: Lessons Learned from my Late Father

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As I write this I’m 31 years old and I’m dying.No, I’m not sick. I’m not fatally wounded. I’m just human and humans die. My dad just did, he was 57 years old.Now, I’m not trying to be a downer. I love life. I’m grateful for my health. But I know, one unknown day, my time on Earth will end. I will die and I’m generally okay with that.Guess what? You will, too.

How to take back your time and sanity by automating your money

Posted by in Budgeting, Communication, Giving, Investing, Saving, Spending, Tools

A few months ago I was helping a good friend of mine shop for wedding rings. He was marrying another long-time friend of mine and they had the big parts of their wedding handled (venue, date, guest list…) But, they still had some details left to work out, like picking wedding rings.My friend told me what he was looking for, I told him about my ring, and gave him some other ideas. Then just for fun, I sent him an article about a guy who hand-forged his own wedding ring…read more

Relationship Lessons Learned With Gina Fatato

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Welcome to the third ever Love and Money Matters Lessons Learned!This is where we tap into the experience of folks who’ve been in loooong relationships. Think multiple decades. Couples who’ve been through more ups and downs than an elevator.Couples who’ve truly learned how to knit their lives together into something beautiful.The idea being to learn from those who’ve already gone where we’re headed so we can learn how to make it as couples and have the best relationships possible.Now, to do this we (my early readers and I) came up with 9 questions designed to…read more

Relationship Lessons Learned with Jac Conlon

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Welcome to the second ever Love and Money Matters Lessons Learned!A couple months ago I asked you, my dear readers, to give me some questions you’d love to have answered by people who’ve been in a relationship longer than you. The idea being to tap into their experience to learn how to make it as a couple and have the best relationship possible.My wife, Andrea, and I had already kind of been doing this. When I meet someone who’s been married longer than me, I ask what they’re doing to…read more

Paying off our mortgage with a bunch of rocks

Posted by in Communication, Debt, Tools

If you’ve ever been over to our house you may’ve noticed 2 vases with a bunch of rocks in each. The rocks aren’t there for Feng Shui. The rocks aren’t there as some kind of weird hipster decoration. The rocks are there to help us pay off our mortgage.  No, these are not magic rocks. No, these are not really gold nuggets. No, they’re not diamonds. Just rocks. So how are they helping us pay off our mortgage? We’ll get there in just a minute. I’m fickleEarlier this year I ran…read more

Relationship Lessons Learned With Lee Mowatt

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Welcome to the first ever Love and Money Matters Lessons Learned!A few weeks ago, I asked you to give me some questions you’d like to have answered by people who’ve been in a relationship longer than you. I’m talking couples with multi-decade long relationships.Couples who’ve been through more ups and downs than an elevator.Couples who’ve truly learned how to knit their lives together into something beautiful.(And maybe even folks who haven’t made it.)Together, we came up with 9 questions designed to help us learn how to make it as couples…read more

Should you combine your finances or keep them separate?

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One of the first things Andrea and I had to do when we got married was decide whether or not to combine our finances. If you’re in a serious relationship, thinking about marriage, or already married, you’ll need to address this with your partner, too. (TL;DR: Andrea and I have took the pros of combined and separate finances while minimizing the cons of each. This happy-medium works for us. Read on for the details.)This isn’t a black and white issue. Despite what your family, culture, or other “financial experts” tell…read more

How To Cut Stress Like President Obama and Steve Jobs

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One of the best things Andrea and I have done for our relationship (and that I’ve also been doing more and more of personally) is learning how to make decisions before they need to be made. It’s something we’ve picked up looking at highly effective, world-class performers like President Obama and Steve Jobs. Republican vs Democrat and Apple vs Android debates aside, these guys reached the top of their game and credited their ability to make decisions ahead of time with getting and keeping them there. Here’s one, just one, example of…read more

A Word of Warning

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I’ve put out some pretty nerdy posts lately, a lot of you have loved them. This tells me you’re pretty nerdy, too.You’ve written to me saying how easy I’ve made things and how you now have hope and feel empowered to pay down your debt, build an emergency fund, or whatever else you want. That’s awesome! I’m happy for you and glad I could help.But…If you’re in a relationship…if you’re on this journey with someone else, be careful! Odds are they’re not as nerdy as you. They’re not as excited as…read more

How we paid off $62,000 in 7 months

Posted by in Budgeting, Communication, Debt

Shortly after we got married, Andrea and I got serious about our finances and paid off all our debt. It only took us 7 months.While I’ve previously shared the method Andrea and I used to pay off all our debts, knowing what to do, and even how, isn’t always enough.  Sometimes we need to believe something is possible before we even try.Sometimes we need to know someone else has blazed a trail and succeeded, meaning it’s possible for us, too.Sometimes, we need hope.So in case this is one of those…read more